11.16.07
To share kindness with another is beautiful. To make one’s self available to other people’s needs is an equally enduring quality. But when the desire to please others clouds our ability to answer to our own needs, we no longer belong to ourselves. The longing to be liked and validated by others is a relentless binding energy – a ridiculous self-imposed prison. By continually anticipating and acting on behalf of everyone else’s needs, likes, wants, preferences etc., we forget to be present with our own heartfelt desires. This disconnectedness gives rise to unbalanced relationships that drain us of our time, energy and resources. Often, we look around and realize we’ve been so busy trying to be everything to everybody, that we’ve trained people to forget that we too have needs.
There is a difference between being selfless (consciously giving of our selves in a balanced way) and self-less (completely oblivious to and disrespectful of our own needs). Being a “good girl” is passé. There ain’t nothing sexy about being a people pleaser. Stop bleeding for others. Get your needs met. Make sure at least one individual is being attentive to you – and that starts with the person in the mirror.
-neycha
Song to rock the concept:
100 WAYS TO BE A GOOD GIRL by skunk anansie
CD:
PARANOID AND SUNBURNT
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